These two new books look pretty good:
Sex and the Soul: Juggling Sexuality, Spirituality, Romance, and Religion on America's College Campuses, by Donna Freitas. Freitas, a BU religion professor, had an op-ed at the WSJ yesterday on the disconnect between college students' thinking about sexuality and their practices. Freitas conducted a survey of 2,500 college students on dating, romance and sex:
"Interestingly, most of the study respondents do identify with religious traditions that have rules about sexuality. But, with the exception of evangelicals, American college students see almost no connection between their religious beliefs and their sexual behavior. This radical separation of religion and sex tells us important things not only about the power of the college hookup culture but also about the weakness of religious traditions in the face of it. Perhaps the various church leaders would be interested to know that their young people are longing for the kinds of guidelines and rituals for dating that religion can offer. It might make them more willing to actually explain church teachings on sex and engage the students in honest discussions about how to foster healthy, fulfilling romantic relationships."
I saw this at Instapundit yesterday, Marriage: The Dream That Refuses to Die, by Elizabeth Fox-Genovese.
"Nearly everywhere and at all times, marriage has enjoyed a privileged status as the primary social unit—the essential bond that created alliances between families and a bridge between the sexes. In joining a man and woman, marriage attempted to hold men to collective social standards, including responsibility for the women they impregnated and the children they fathered, while also stringently hedging in women’s sexuality. In short, marriage has always demanded that both men and women sacrifice a considerable measure of individual freedom. In marriage, 'I' becomes 'we,' and 'we' frequently extends beyond the couple to extended family, clan, and society. For these reasons, both political and religious authorities typically have taken great care to present marriage as an institution to which individual interests must be subordinated."
"At the time of her death in January 2007, the celebrated historian Elizabeth Fox-Genovese was worried that these attitudes were in the process of being reversed. In this book, which she was in the midst of preparing for publication at the time of her passing, she argues that marriage is disintegrating under the rising demands that it serve not the good of the whole but the desires of the individual. A union that at one point was used to limit individual 'rights' is now claimed as one right among many. The sexual liberation movements of the last forty years have seriously undermined marriage, argues Fox-Genovese, so much so that the institution seems to face the threat of extinction."
The welfare society has also seriously undermined marriage, as it obviously doesn't require that men are responsible for the children they've fathered, or that women stop having babies from multiple fathers. More children, more money, bigger apartment subsidy. Who cares who the fathers are? Who cares about the next generation of deprived children?
Similarly, having children has also become the "right" of individuals, so that many single men and women feel it's their right to have children, whether by adoption or artificial insemination. What about the right of a child to be raised by two parents in a stable household?
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