I heard this commentary last week on NPR's All Things Considered driving home from work. You could have knocked me over with a feather, as they say. Caroline Langston, who works at NPR, talks about why she was a virgin on her wedding night at age 31. You can hear the radio commentary here, the transcript is available here.
(Talking about in her progressive boarding school) "Sex was expected, it was unemotional and it was no big deal, but the pressure to just give it up did not match what I wanted in my heart....The anxious misery of my youth would have been magnified exponentially if I had been sleeping with the boys I dated. It did not seem to make the lives of my girlfriends all that much happier, which is not to say that I did not have my own fun or make my own mistakes in judgment."
She also notes that while most brides and grooms today boogie the night away at their wedding reception, she and her groom were outta there in record time, they couldn't wait to begin their honeymoon. A very touching commentary, and remarkable for being on NPR, bastion of liberal-think that it is.
Funny how modesty/chastity is almost considered rebellious today. But in a time where not only colleges, but even middle schools and high schools are distributing birth control, it is counter-cultural to abstain from sex. The rebellious kids today are the ones who aren't buying into casual sex or "friends with benefits." The pendulum is swinging back, methinks, and that's a good thing. Langston concludes:
"Maybe it’s the word abstinence itself that’s the problem, its pinched tones of puritan self-denial. For me, in the end, it is an argument as much about beauty as it is about morality. We grant the value of discipline, waiting and hope in the creation of art, then why not as well in that realm where the physical intersects with the infinite?"